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Your title is pure gold. High click reward. Nice choice.

And I went through some similar things with the notion of a birth plan, with wanting a natural birth (twice), with never wanting to see a video of that ever (ever), with practitioners who did not understand my choices.

What I'm really focused on here, though, is that you made a plan for snacks. Snacks. Now THAT is a good plan. And I would've killed for food both times, and both times they said "no, you can't have food, you're birthing a child" while my wife stood behind them and stuffed a fistfull of french fries in her mouth. I mean, come on! It takes a lot of calories to go through that.

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May 26Liked by Nicci Kadilak

Good stuff!!

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May 26Liked by Nicci Kadilak

Thank you for sharing - I think you are very brave! I also had a written birth plan that I brought with me to the hospital. My practitioner was very respectful about it. It all went out the window when things got scary, but it all worked out well. I think the birth plan helped me feel more in control - even when we had to diverge from the plan, the doctor asked my permission and explained her reasoning first so I still felt like I had a say.

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Whya beautiful story!

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This is so beautifully written, Nicci.

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