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Your title is pure gold. High click reward. Nice choice.

And I went through some similar things with the notion of a birth plan, with wanting a natural birth (twice), with never wanting to see a video of that ever (ever), with practitioners who did not understand my choices.

What I'm really focused on here, though, is that you made a plan for snacks. Snacks. Now THAT is a good plan. And I would've killed for food both times, and both times they said "no, you can't have food, you're birthing a child" while my wife stood behind them and stuffed a fistfull of french fries in her mouth. I mean, come on! It takes a lot of calories to go through that.

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Lol @ your wife. My husband was too anxious to eat but theoretically could and I was mad about it. I always said bring me sushi after the baby comes but tbh I just couldn’t deal with food just after giving birth to the girls. After the boy, though...spaghetti bolognese. 😂

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Haha. Well, no one would have thought of it if not for the 10-page printed plan from the internet. 😂

I was sick to my stomach when in transition with both the girls so I was all like forcing myself to eat something when I was in labor with the youngest so I could have something to throw up later. Never threw up. Honestly it’s not for everyone but my home birth was my favorite thing I ever did in life.

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Good stuff!!

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Thank you for sharing - I think you are very brave! I also had a written birth plan that I brought with me to the hospital. My practitioner was very respectful about it. It all went out the window when things got scary, but it all worked out well. I think the birth plan helped me feel more in control - even when we had to diverge from the plan, the doctor asked my permission and explained her reasoning first so I still felt like I had a say.

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Oh that’s great. My first experience was a crash course in what not to do as a practitioner. They were awful. But I didn’t realize that that’s what you get when you go to a big interventionist hospital. They treat all births like medical emergencies, whether or not they are.

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Whya beautiful story!

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Aw thanks

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This is so beautifully written, Nicci.

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Thank you!! 💖

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